Decide to be blessed this Mother's Day!
5-11-13
Mother's Day. A day of rejoicing, embracing and celebrating motherhood. It can also be a day of tears, longing and empty, aching arms. I remember that feeling well. It leaves a hollow, jealous space in your hear that yearns to be filled with a child. What can we do to suppress the nagging feeling that something - someone- is missing? My advice is to take charge of your journey! Do one thing every day that brings you closer to being a parent! You may not be growing a person, or rocking your baby to sleep, but you can be filling out paper work or doing fund raisers to bring your child home! Isn't there a saying that has been floating around lately, "look for the good,?" well, Mr Rodger's may have meant it for time of disaster, but I am saying it NOW. Look for something good about this Mother's Day. Nurture your relationship, develop a talent or lighten someone's burden, perhaps it's heavier than your own. Fill the space in your heart with memories and people, each moment spent for good will make you a better parent when the time comes. This Mother's Day, you CAN be a mother, even if it is to the child you have yet to meet. Do it by being the kind of person today that they will be proud to learn about later. I wish you all a happy day today, and many messy, laughter filled, busy Mother's Day's to come!
Mother's Day. A day of rejoicing, embracing and celebrating motherhood. It can also be a day of tears, longing and empty, aching arms. I remember that feeling well. It leaves a hollow, jealous space in your hear that yearns to be filled with a child. What can we do to suppress the nagging feeling that something - someone- is missing? My advice is to take charge of your journey! Do one thing every day that brings you closer to being a parent! You may not be growing a person, or rocking your baby to sleep, but you can be filling out paper work or doing fund raisers to bring your child home! Isn't there a saying that has been floating around lately, "look for the good,?" well, Mr Rodger's may have meant it for time of disaster, but I am saying it NOW. Look for something good about this Mother's Day. Nurture your relationship, develop a talent or lighten someone's burden, perhaps it's heavier than your own. Fill the space in your heart with memories and people, each moment spent for good will make you a better parent when the time comes. This Mother's Day, you CAN be a mother, even if it is to the child you have yet to meet. Do it by being the kind of person today that they will be proud to learn about later. I wish you all a happy day today, and many messy, laughter filled, busy Mother's Day's to come!
Fox 12 News KPTV
Our local news station here in Portland did a story on our family, and embryo adoption. Here is the link! How do you think I did? It was really edited and some of the deeper, thought provoking questions were cut short, but I think it gave people a warm, fuzzy feeling. And my kids sure looked cute on tv!!
http://www.kptv.com/story/22184521/fox12-investigators-local-woman-gave-birth-to-baby-she-adopted
http://www.kptv.com/story/22184521/fox12-investigators-local-woman-gave-birth-to-baby-she-adopted
It's National Infertility Awareness Week!
4-24-13
Did you know that it's National Infertility Awareness Week? What is it you ask? Don't worry - I didn't know at first either! Sometimes it's abbreviated as NIAW, and is a project of RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. The main purpose of the week is to raise awareness about infertility, to help couples experiencing it cope, most importantly to learn to live and THRIVE despite their infertility. It's a week where people are encouraged to let their friends and loved ones know of their conditions, seek support and not feel ashamed about their infertility diagnosis.
National Infertility Awareness Week is this week - April 21-27th and is usually held the last week of April, right before Mother's Day is celebrated.
Why does the world need such a week? Education is the best way to advocate for yourself! When you first told your families you were considering adoption to build your family, didn't they ask questions? One person in my family immediately asked, "Whose fault is it?!" We also got a lot of, "Well just quit trying, once you quit trying you will just get pregnant," or "Maybe it's your diet!" See why we need a week to educate all those fertile people?! It's most often not about stress, diets, or relaxation - it's about low sperm counts, no sperm counts and uninhabitable uteruses!! There is also the benefit of educating lawmakers. Did you know that most insurances do not cover fertility treatments? (Of course you do - you are nodding your head right now aren't you?!) Insurance companies believe that it would be more expensive to cover things like IVF when in reality, it would be cheaper - if insurance covered the ivf treatment, there would be less pressure to implant more than one embryo, resulting in less chance of multiples, and multiples equal higher medical costs.
Then there is the issue of adoption lingo. I could write an entire book about this!! (Wait, I actually AM writing an entire book about this! Watch for it.....) Tell me you have heard this one, "How much do you have to pay for your baby?" Or the ever so blunt, "Don't you wish you could have your own kids?" and I like this one the best, "I just don't know if I could love someone else's baby." You don't say this to someone who is CURRENTLY IN THE ADOPTION PROCESS!!
With infertility affecting 1 in 8 people, it is very likely that everyone knows someone who has been or will be affected by infertility. So get out there and educate! Raise awareness to the reality that is now your life! Happy National Infertility Awareness Week
Did you know that it's National Infertility Awareness Week? What is it you ask? Don't worry - I didn't know at first either! Sometimes it's abbreviated as NIAW, and is a project of RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. The main purpose of the week is to raise awareness about infertility, to help couples experiencing it cope, most importantly to learn to live and THRIVE despite their infertility. It's a week where people are encouraged to let their friends and loved ones know of their conditions, seek support and not feel ashamed about their infertility diagnosis.
National Infertility Awareness Week is this week - April 21-27th and is usually held the last week of April, right before Mother's Day is celebrated.
Why does the world need such a week? Education is the best way to advocate for yourself! When you first told your families you were considering adoption to build your family, didn't they ask questions? One person in my family immediately asked, "Whose fault is it?!" We also got a lot of, "Well just quit trying, once you quit trying you will just get pregnant," or "Maybe it's your diet!" See why we need a week to educate all those fertile people?! It's most often not about stress, diets, or relaxation - it's about low sperm counts, no sperm counts and uninhabitable uteruses!! There is also the benefit of educating lawmakers. Did you know that most insurances do not cover fertility treatments? (Of course you do - you are nodding your head right now aren't you?!) Insurance companies believe that it would be more expensive to cover things like IVF when in reality, it would be cheaper - if insurance covered the ivf treatment, there would be less pressure to implant more than one embryo, resulting in less chance of multiples, and multiples equal higher medical costs.
Then there is the issue of adoption lingo. I could write an entire book about this!! (Wait, I actually AM writing an entire book about this! Watch for it.....) Tell me you have heard this one, "How much do you have to pay for your baby?" Or the ever so blunt, "Don't you wish you could have your own kids?" and I like this one the best, "I just don't know if I could love someone else's baby." You don't say this to someone who is CURRENTLY IN THE ADOPTION PROCESS!!
With infertility affecting 1 in 8 people, it is very likely that everyone knows someone who has been or will be affected by infertility. So get out there and educate! Raise awareness to the reality that is now your life! Happy National Infertility Awareness Week
